If you don’t need issue tracker, wki, CI etc., cgit will be enough. If choose from gitlab, gitea and forgejo, use forgejo.

My plan is to load up on canned stew and buckwheat.

I promise, maintenance it basically zero after a proper setup.

Well, it was close to zero for me until the last year dovecot update (2.3→2.4) that has broken old configs. I’ve spent a lot of time fixing them.

If it was painful for you, this does not mean nobody should even try. FMPOV my mailbox contains too much personal information to host in in the cloud.

I’d try Maddy if I were going to setup my personal email server now. But I already have postfix/dovecot/all-that-shit up and running for years.